With every pain comes an opportunity. If you transform that pain into something substantial, something life changing then the pain becomes invaluable but if you don’t utilize that pain, then it becomes useless suffering.
Life doesn’t not teach us as we learn from a book. It pushes us, probes us, makes us go through hard times, so we can appreciate the good when it comes along. We as humans have strong ability to “get used to” things very quickly and we began to take good things in life for granted and I believe sometimes life pushes hard times across our path, so we realize the value of remarkable things we have that we have been taking for granted and/or realize the true value of something wonderful that is about to enter our life.
So when life gets hard and things don’t go the way you would like them to be and you feel out of control; STOP and reflect what is not working and THINK this is an opportunity to learn something about the world or something about yourself.
Its moments like these that define us and helps us discover something new about ourselves and qualities, strengths we didn’t knew we had. Even if you look at various successful businesses, there were created when the founder was frustrated by the way things were and was in pain, and from pain he/she created something substantial that changed the way we did things.
So, welcome frustration and learn to gear it towards a creative outlet and make yourself better than before. Remember, its your perspective that makes most incidents painful or pleasurable, so learn to control your own channel and view it with different filter and you will find opportunities where they didn’t exist.
Life is such a phenomenal adventure and lot of times forget how lucky we are to be living this life. We get so focused on the things we don’t have that we forget to enjoy the things we do have. I know this because I myself get so caught up focusing on what I want in life, that I forget what I already have.
Little things in life give us joy and pleasure that we forget to enjoy. I am making a promise to myself today that I am going to start noticing and cherishing those tiny things that make me smile and/or happy during the day and going to start writing about them. Even about things that I like, no matter how odd they might seem to someone but if they bring joy to me, who cares right?
I will categorize them by “so kool” because it is a kool if something makes you happy.
“advertising is a price companies pay for being un-original.”
I was watching a Ted video by Seth Godin and came across this quote and had to share it, so tru.
Self Awareness is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
This morning I saw tweet from @EARN in which they shared article by PEW Research Center that stated that “Most Americans say a college education is not worth the cost. In fact, 57% say that college students receive only a fair (42%) or poor (15%) return for the money they and their families spend on their education.“
And the question posted by EARN was that do we Agree or Disagree if going to college is worth the cost anymore.
And by the way, EARN is a Non Profit Organization that provides tools for low income working families to buy a house, get college degree etc.
I responded that I do Agree that its not worth the money anymore, since for last few years, tuition costs have increased tremendously. But it also depends what an individual is trying to get out of college and college degree.
In my case, I went to school to earn my BS in Electronics Engineering and then MBA but I currently work as Project Manager in Online marketing and I work on SEO/SEM, Adwords, Social Media marketing campaigns, writing Blog posts etc and managing online marketing campaigns for my clients. What I am trying to say is that whatever I need to know in order to perform for my current job responsibilities, I did not learn it from college, I self taught myself. I read various SEO blogs, marketing books, You Tube (amazing source if you want to learn anything) etc.
So does that mean that money spent on my college degree was a waste?
Ummm No and Yes.
No, I wouldn’t consider it a compete waste since I made great contacts with fellow students and college professors; college helped me discover who I am and what I value as a person and whom I want to be and of course I did learn. But was the education received worth the Cost and Time spent, that’s different story. Also, it depends on what you are going to college for. eg: if you want to be in Medical field then yes college is a great place to go but if you want to have career in marketing or technology field, it can be self taught.
Yes, because as far as education is concerned, I could have learned the skills and information that I learned via my degree through so many online resources. And as I mentioned above, whatever I need to know to perform my current job responsibilities, I learned 100% of it via Free online resources. You Tube, How stuff works, Infinite Blogs etc have plethora of information available about anything and everything. So, if you are committed to learning and are self disciplined you can self learn but if you require a structured environment and don’t have the self discipline then college would be worth the money for you.
Another question comes to mind is: What about having degree listed on your Resume when applying for a job?
Well, having a BS or MS degree on your resume definitely helps you get through the door to an interview. But once you are in, its all about what you know.
Having a degree tells the recruiter/interviewer that this individual went through school and knows something about the field he/she is applying for and is credible. But that can be compensated by developing your online identity as an expert by building your own blog, you tube videos, etc in the field you are interested in. If you are interested in Online Marketing, you can write a blog about online marketing techniques, and what you think about them, how they can be improved etc and come across an expert. That could compensate for not have an actual college degree.
To summarize, college was good for self discovery, making contacts or medical related field etc but as far as learning a skill in concerned, there are so many FREE online resources that act as substitute for a college class room. So, it very subjective and relative to what an individual wants to get out college and is the money spent worth the outcome.
I had to take my mom to the dentist yesterday. Our appointment was for 10:00 am and we reached there at 9:45 am so that we can fill out the paper work and be ready for the doctor at 10:00 am. But of course, as we wait in the waiting room (now I know why they literally call it that) no one calls her name at 10:00. We wait longer and clock strikes 11am, still no call. 11am became 11:45 am when she was called in by the nurse into the examination room. Nurse checked her blood pressure and weight and then moved us into the examination room.
We waited another 15-20 minutes before the doctor finally came in to see us. So, even though we had 10 am appointment, the dentist didn’t see her till 12:05 pm, that’s 2 hours of our wasted time.
I am a Project Manager and my time is precious. I just wasted 2 hours of my time and my mom’s time away from our jobs. Shouldn’t I charge the doctor for my time, if they are going to charge me for theirs.
Shouldn’t we be allowed to charge the dentist for our time being wasted in the waiting room?
My definition of Leadership:
L: Lead your people and
E: Encourage them when they are dealing with
A: Adversity and
E: Endure them, give
R: Respect and help them
S: Succeed in their life and watch them
H: Help you
I: Increase your
If you are not willing to fight for what you believe in, you don’t believe in it enough.
Little courtesy gestures in life are make a huge difference in how someone perceives you and your business.
Businesses go through marketing style cycles. What does that mean?
Small town business mentality:Personalized Service
When our grand parents ran businesses, they ran it with small town mentality. All the marketing was word of mouth because 95% of their customers lived within 5 mile radius. And they would only come back if they received good service. My grandpa ran a grocery store and I saw him deal with his customers. He knew everyone by name and when they came to buy something, he would always ask them about their kids, how they were doing in school or how was their mom’s back since last time customer mentioned that their mother had back issues. The point is, my grandpa offered “personalized service” to his customers and his business was thriving on it. He said “thank you” to each of his customer and was transparent with them. His customers knew my grandpa personally and could relate to him and felt connected, therefore came back.
So called “business persona” mentality: Non Personalized Service
Then came next generation of our parents. This generation started using answering machines, automated ordering system; they hired employees and main focus was to put on a “business persona” and create so called “business environment” and not reveal personal details. It also worked in that time, because customers were looking for a change and they too didn’t want to reveal personal information to a shop keeper and just wanted to purchase their stuff and get on with their lives.
Social Media Shift: Personalized Service
Now, we are going through one of the most amazing cultural shift where we get to and are expected to delivery personalized service not just to people within our 5 mile radius but anywhere in the country or in the world (if the brand is international). With the use to Social Media (blogs, Facebook, Twitter, You Tube etc.) we can connect with anyone in the world. I believe that now we are back to the same “small town shop keeper” business mentality where we have and need to connect to our customers on personal level.
We have entered a world where transparency is being appreciated and expected. If you and/or your business is transparent about who they are, your customers will feel connected to you on emotional level and would stand by you when you make a mistake in product or service.
In this culture, if businesses want to survive, they need to be courteous and say “thank you” to their customer when they say something nice about them. Businesses have to show their customers that Yes, we do care for you and have nothing to hide.
This is a time when the Truth will win and transparency will be rewarded. So, go out and say “thank you” to your customer, apologize if you made a mistake and be transparent. Show the culture of your company and you will win.
Don’t live the life people expect you to live but create the life that makes you alive.